Brave Hearts #5

jeri_devaleThe courage to be vulnerable and authentic with your spouse can transform your life as you accept and embrace yourself and others more.  You increase the intimacy in your life and make yourself also a better leader at work and for your children.  If you aren’t able to be vulnerable and authentic there is a place inside of you where you feel unworthy, and less than due to your striving for perfection believing you have to be perfect to get love and to win whatever prize you are after…Remember if you are feeling less than in any area you are feeling shame, and on some level will push intimacy and people away.  There are a few exceptions with this however…if you are living with a man or woman who has a psychotic character structure, even if they are not currently in a psychotic episode, or someone who is addicted to drugs, you can be hurt in more ways than one and you have to be more cautious with how vulnerable you can be. If this person seeks treatment and stays in treatment there is hope…but if they don’t…do not hesitate to leave or it will wear down your soul and cause you to get physical diseases and die younger than you need to.  We need to live with someone where we can be safe to be authentic.  We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Let’s celebrate them both as they both serve us.

Now take a deep breath with me and let out all of your worries and concerns on the exhale.  Take 5 or 6 more breaths and visualize yourself, and all of your loved ones, and now the whole world learning that authenticity serves us all.  We must love ourselves first to be able to love others…Amazingly so …we are usually harder on ourselves than on others.  Recognize it is ok to fail.  Making mistakes is just a reference point to look in another direction…forgive yourself and others and look in the direction of joy….so visualize the world getting this and focusing on joy and forgiveness.

Dr. Jeri DeVale – the institute of Healing Arts and Films.org

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