Make your thinking multicolor.
Recently with a patient we were talking about how many things she dislikes and how it stops her from creating more abundance and opportunities in her life. When I asked her to try and define her dislikes so that we could problem solve them…she couldn’t and bristled and said if I don’t like lima beans there is no reason for it….I just don’t like lima beans therefore I won’t eat them…I also don’t like doing this or that kind of job so I won’t do them even if it makes me homeless. This very black and white thinking is often associated with people who are addicted to some kind of drugs but also just very defensive people in general. We can certainly see the black and white thinking in congress that has our government stuck. Each party thinks they are right…but reality is not absolute…we are always partly right and partly wrong…
So if you don’t like lima beans you can problem solve that in a way you don’t have to obtain from eating it… You can put cheese sauce over it or olive oil and Italian herbs…you can make it an exciting thing of discovering how you can prepare lima beans in a way that it will actually taste delicious…You can also mix it with other vegetables etc ….This more creative type of thinking is adding more hues of color so reality isn’t black and white…but has shades of other colors mixed in it to have the most abundant life.
Jeri DeVale,Ph.D.