Non-attachment friend or foe?

jeri_devaleDear Bravehearts,

Non-attachment must be applied only to the destructive negativity of the lower mind..that is the only reason the practice of non-attachment is worthwhile because in order to do it for real you have to attach yourself very strongly to the higher path and consciousness and surrender to god or what some people call the super conscious mind in unity into the oneness. Because that means that your focus is in the real universe.

We have multidimensional awareness. Our subconscious mind pulls us down.  Unfortunately many religions or at least our false interpretations of non-attachment have led many people into strong psychological defenses that numb people out and demotivates them…so to protect themselves from pain people try and convince themselves that certain things really aren’t that important to them…but that repressions only dooms them to live a more shallow life and can keep you from learning important lessons you need to learn…you can be passionate about anything just let your super conscious mind be in control not your subconscious mind…so repression works against you. You can be non-attached when you can say “I have already been there and done that and it didn’t get me the results I wanted therefore I am going to let my higher self that knows the truth lead in passion and joy.”  If you try to force being non-attached.. it Is like when someone says to you “Whatever you do now don’t think of a tree!” Well all you can do is think of a tree. When negative thoughts come up or strong desires that distract you just let them float by without judging them or fueling them. And bring yourself back into the moment by saying how can I bring more light and love into this situation.

Dr. Jeri DeVale

www.jeridevalePhD.com
www.instituteofhealingartsandfilms.org
devale42@gmail.com

See the best in each other

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An aspect of the path to God Consciousness has to do with the faculty of the mind that recognizes beauty. It always looks for ways to bring out the best in each person and each situation, to turn the drab and ordinary into something pretty and miraculous. Have a beautiful day see the best in each other.

 

 

 

Dr. Jeri DeVale

www.jeridevalePhD.com
www.instituteofhealingartsandfilms.org
devale42@gmail.com

Becoming More Secure and Confident in Yourself

jeri_devaleDear Bravehearts,

You can become more secure and confident by a combination of fueling secure and confident thoughts and feelings, and by not fueling feelings of doubt and insecurity. This can be done with both passive and active meditation.  Passive meditation you focus on  a mantra – a series of words that you repeat in your mind over and over like the word HU by chanting or singing them inside of yourself focusing in the middle of your forehead known as the third eye and watch your negative thoughts and feelings float by you without attaching yourself to them or judging them…realizing that they are not who you are so don’t identify with them….you can do this formally for 15 minutes twice a day….and then during the day with  your eyes open as you notice these negative thoughts come up you don’t repress them you just dismiss them because you know they are an illusion.

Dr. Jeri DeVale
devale42@gmail.com

www.jeridevalePhD.com

www.instituteofhealingartsandfilms.org

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Do you feel alone and/or lonely?

jeri_devaleDear Bravehearts,

Do you feel alone and/or lonely?

Here is a story that might help you.  You are walking in the park and you see a lot of children playing and families having picnics and lots of activity.  Then you come across a child crying on a park bench.  You ask the child, “why are you crying”?  The child says, “because I am all alone.”   So you go and introduce yourself to all of the other children…the sad child looks on with wonder at how you do this and learns that love is just an arms length away…you have to give people a chance to get to know you.  So the child starts to go to the other children to say “Hi and introduces himself/herself and they let him/her play with them.”

The second part to this is that loneliness does not often have too much to do with how many people are in your life…that is only a part of it…but it has to do with you (not your) being too critical of yourself. So you separate your own love from  yourself.

Be Kind, Sweet and Gentle with yourselves.

Dr. Jeri DeVale
devale42@gmail.com

www.jeridevalePhD.com

www.instituteofhealingartsandfilms.org

www.thedailyawakener.com

Defining your Life’s Purpose

jeri_devaleIt is difficult to know what your purpose in marriage is if you haven’t articulated to yourself what the meaning and purpose of your life is…and your life’s meaning comes from the gratification of fulfilling your purpose and direction.  So let’s start… here are commonly held examples of life’s purpose.  Yours may be very different.  If you believe in God your life’s purpose may be to know, love and serve God, and the God in all things.  If you don’t believe in God your life’s purpose might be to know and serve the energy of love or the highest consciousness there is in your life and with your family and with the human race and the planet earth and to be of service.….or it can be to live up to your highest potential as a human being, or it can be to have the most joy and pleasure you can. Then when working together with someone else…the question becomes how can we work together to help each other reach our highest goals and potential….what does that look like? How do we do that? Send me by email any questions you may have and what you have come up with to define your life’s purpose and any progress you have in then joining with your spouse and family members and larger community to put it all together.  Remember to put it all into the light for the highest good, and not to impose your will on others.  You are creating harmony here also not just serving love and happiness…love and happiness will be short lived…if you want a long lasting marriage…you have to focus on and have as a part of the mix the energy of Harmony.

Dr. Jeri DeVale
devale42@gmail.com

www.jeridevalePhD.com

www.instituteofhealingartsandfilms.org

www.thedailyawakener.com

Happiness in Marriage and Life?

jeri_devaleSo many times people feel they are planning their lives but a good percentage of the time we are just winging it unless we make agreements not only with others but also with ourselves… People who are the happiest usually are living through their purpose and intention… and strategic planning. Have you even defined it for yourselves? Do you then make a to do list of how you and your spouse and your children can work together to accomplish these goals? I teach transcendence in Marriage. More on this tomorrow. This teaching keeps you away from blaming each other and promotes good communication.

 

Dr. Jeri DeVale

www.instituteofhealingartsandfilms.org

www.jeridevalePhD.com

devale42@gmail.com

Great New Teaching

jeri_devaleDear Brave Hearts,

We can as a group help make fantastic changes for our lives, our families, our governments, our prosperity, our world. I’m sure many of you have heard the phrase that when 2 or more are gathered together in my name I am there also.

Well this is how it magnifies… if you are one person and you visualize something like prosperity for all.  It only has the energy of one person… for each new person you add it is 7 times the energy that goes out into the universe on this thought.  So if you have even 30 people visualizing you have the energy of 210 people thinking the same thing radiating out into the universe.  Here is the trick though… you must send it out pure…you can’t have any of your pictures of how something you want can come about. After we say what it is we want to visualize we must always say this is done with free will and for the good of all… the most important step.  Otherwise if you cross other people’s will it can backfire.  So if you would like to participate with this send me an email at devale42@gmail.com telling me so…and add one wish about changes you would like to see and as soon as I get at least 30 people I will set up a time we can do this together…when  you email me please tell me what time zone you are in. Thanks. We can also join then with other groups who might be doing the same thing allowing even more energy on our positive thoughts. My love to you all.

Dr. Jeri DeVale
devale42@gmail.com

Empowering Yourself and Your Relationships

jeri_devaleWhen you deliberately choose to do something to try and please someone you feel more fulfilled and experience a sense of freedom as you feel this is your choice…so this action is taken in love and you usually feel pleasure doing it.…Many of us forget paying attention to this…In relationships we get scared that we might lose someone if we aren’t trying to please them all of the time or we fear we might get punished by them. We then take this action out of fear not love. So when we are doing something we feel we have to do, even if we really don’t want to do it,  we sometimes resent it, and therefore don’t feel nourished by it. Try this week to focus on deliberately choosing whatever actions you take this week and how that makes you feel…Email me the results.

Jeri DeVale, Ph.D.
Devale42@gmail.com
www.instituteofhealingartsandfilms.org

Success – Happiness & Enlightenment

jeri_devaleSome people think that if you are enlightened you will be feeling bliss all of the time. Nice thought, but the nature of enlightenment is that you are not attached to feeling bliss or sadness…you do sort of feel a sense of deep peace…but remember wanting to achieve success or happiness or bliss as a permanent fixture doesn’t work as it isn’t in reality. It keeps you stressed out and therefore shut down in some ways. Nothing is constant. Reality is a flowing river… Success and happiness is not permanent… something to be achieved and then you have it for the rest of your life. That is why enlightened masters never say they are enlightened masters because it is egotistical. An enlightened master never asks himself that question. For an enlightened master Love is…peace is…joy but you can actually feel other things like sadness at the same time…you just learn not to fuel it…and instead direct your attention to where love and joy is.

By Dr. Jeri DeVale
www.Instituteofhealingartsandfilms.org